Friday, February 18, 2011

When Adults Pass the Buck to Children

Okay, so I'm up at my son's school, trying to make sure that he gets a permanent bus pass, so that yesterday will NEVER happen again.  After "holding his hand" and securing a permanent bus pass, I go to seek out his principal to find out what's going to be done about what happened yesterday.  He tells me that from what it looked like, and from the reports he's been getting, my son planned on walking home to have a ONE ON ONE fight.  Nope, not going to believe that.  First off, my son was walking home alone, without any of his crew with him.  He's not crazy enough to walk home by himself to possibly get jumped by a group of guys.  He's just not that type of child.  His story is more believable than what the principal and all his reporters are wanting me to believe.  He mentioned that my son was seen walking with his shirt off.  Is that a crime?  Yesterday was hot as hell, and I can see my son taking his shirt off to showcase his ripped abs, cause he's at that age and didn't think anything was wrong with it.  The principal mentioned that one of the boys that approached my son,  his father is chief of police or something or another...OKAY, WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???  We all know that the preacher's children can be something else. 

Anyway, his main argument was that my son should have told him that he was walking home because he didn't have a bus pass cause he would have made sure that he got on the bus with three other students who didn't have their bus passes either.  The principal said that he told my son to call me several times and my son was like, I'll walk home, I don't have to call my mother.  My question is, if my son didn't, which he did attempt from another principal's phone, why didn't the principal call me?  My number is programmed in his phone.  Was it too much trouble for him to call me up, instead of waiting for me to call him and then say, "I was just getting ready to call you, blah, blah, blah...?"     

Like I asked yesterday, what fourteen year old who you know, follows up and goes that extra mile?  The adults aren't doing what their supposed to do, but wanna say that the children know better and this and that.  Well if the adults are passing the buck and blaming the children for them not going the extra mile, then what can we expect from the children?  One thing is for sure, I won't pass the buck to anyone, child or adult.  I follow through until I get the results that I am seeking.  It may not be a payed position, but I will continue to sit at home and await the phone calls of distress concerning my children and come to their rescue if need be.  In no way am I saying that my child is perfect, but when you have inadequate adults in positions of trust and they drop the ball, as a parent, you better be ready and available to go that extra mile for the ones who are depending on you to be there for them in their time of need.